And it happened that very night, he was out working late, not even coming home for dinner. I said theres no excuse why ur texting her, if she wont leave u alone why are you texting her? He stays alone, I stay alone and the ex stays with their 2 kids. That it must of been attached to a junk email he got. If you really want to ask someone who cares, who understands the risk and who can lose everything.ask his wife. But i found out through a friend that they did see eachother, while i was out of town. THE BEST PART of our relationship was always COMMUNICATION. In the last few months my husbands behavior has changed, consistant flirting, he tells half truths or white lies and when I complain about his behavior toward other women he gets very aggressive professing hes not doing anything. So I decided to look through everything and I found more photos and videos from his brother who is engaged to my sister. My advice to you would be to stop the friendship before you get into a mess youre not prepared to deal with!! And I believed him. I am unhappy to this day and cant get over what happened and will never trust him again. Tell him that's it. He has a history of lying to me but thought he had stopped. About a year into living here he starts staying late at work more and more oftenusually getting home at midnight sometimes even 2am. I dont know anything about you, your relationship with your sister, or your marriage. Find better. It was from a woman saying she wished he was hers. But.my heart is broken into a million pieces whenever I think of this, I am a pretty attractive girl, in a decent shape and do everything he asks me sexually. So here is my story. Because lately all he seams interested in is video games, porn, and what ever he wants to do. So, I put my foot down and told him he couldnt talk to her anymore. have there been questions asked? As I write to you, hes late to come home again.Yes, we usually have sex ones every week or every two weeks, that is only if I initiate it. He would say good morning and goodnight. He has his cell phone attached to his side constantly only to turn it off and LOCKED when hes sleeping. I discovered, after several months, people dont respond well to ultimatums, and all he did was talk to her behind my back. So, unfortunately it brings us to men having a very strong need to roam, to see, to fantasize and woman have an even stronger instinct to feel. does it really matter if you find out if he really cheated? The majority of women Ive had sex with were married or in a LTR. I still kept finding little signs of their contact and all along he was telling me Im crazy. John. I have so much respect for you, and for what youve survived! He is 15 years older than me. I truly believed that we had a stronger bond. He has said that he is one of the most loyal people I will ever find, and that he has never cheated on anyone before in his life because he isnt like that. He is off work during the the summer, while I have a 9-5 every day job. Hi Im 28weeks pregnant and my husband and I have not slept in the same bed or even same room for months. Please help! Rebuilding trust is possible but involves a lot of work if the husband is willing to take responsibility (not blaming it on genes) and explain how and why he did it in the first place. My parents think we should stay together. I went to the bathroom 5 minutes later, and I came down to ask him a question, and he was chatting with someone on facebook. He was there for 2 weeks and in that time I had recieved a facebook message from a girl Id never met before. I decided to check his cell phone records and when he walked up behind me and asked why was I on our wireless account. :), I had the same issue with my bf of 4 yrshe was still best friends with his first love, as well as his whole family. Also I told him the only way to prove to me is if I can talk to this guy he was with last night looking at this. We talk and i forgave him, thinking that this was going to stop. I just want him to be honest. Ever, even when we were on the outs. Let them make you a hot drink and pour your heart out. Is he cheating on me? Ive been dating my bf in a long-distance relationship for 1 year. Hes hiding sh!t, hes lying to you and girlfriend, hes cheating on you. he said he can haddle it we should just work out our problems then we got married . But I found something in his phone that made me question what happened up there . Youll have no one but yourself to blame if you wake up in 20 years after wasting your life trying to hold on to a man who has made it clear that he thinks youre not even worth trying to lie to. > but anyway we did manage to survive all the tough times of our marriage. And they have been talking to eachother for the past week. My bf even tried calling her from my phone and she never answered or called back. He admitted to me that he asked her out on a date, but she refused to call it a date, so it was merely just friends. Its feels good to be bad and naughtythats in us!!! I just felt he was depressed. (Well, I actually think the most important relationship is with God, but thats a whole different animal :-) ). I checked his one email NOTHING, he uses another email for other crap I have no idea what, if i could only get my little hands into that account! I havent told our kids about this other baby cause I feel its not my responsibility to do so. mayb not all this is while they r out of town on job. not even after 1 month i saw him at shoping centre with a women in his car i approached him , u know what he went to park his car from distance not for woman to see what is going on. Help knowing when to break up, so you can find a healthy relationship. When I nag, then he buys me things. He goes out three times a week. We talked about it and it was made clear that it was due to other factors of the current living situation that had nothing to do with each other. Period. I was abused in every relationship i was ever in. Sometimes when hes not at home I just sit and cry. He sent a text so i got to see it. But when things werent going as she wanted she texted me to tell me about everything. So, although my husband has extra work, he does have extra help. 5. I also found hed subscribed to a number of online cheating websites for married people..dating back to before he proposed to me. Leave him. The only time he ever talks to me to holds me is when he wants sex..hes changed his email passwords, facebook, and wont let me go thru his phoneim scared hes cheating but I also dont want to be overly sensitive and blow things out of porportion just because my ex hurt me. Dont let your husband take your power! He hardly ever touches me or becomes intimate with me even before we became pregnant. Im just so very emotional and stressed, and pissed. Once hes gone, youll be free to cry and explore your anger and sadness as much as you want. Hes never reachable by phone and his schedule is magically so mixed up I can never see him (or he wont tell me his work hours until last minute so I cant plan to see him). When that isnt satisfying enough when the spark of that excitement wears off then it progresses to meeting in person, dinners, drinks, hotels, etc. Both times this lady never opened her mouth to me. Try to save your marriage? I am still in shock as we never even had a fight. Ami, Im sorry in my experience men and women cant be friends because you take away from his relationship with his wife. Im planning on moving to the state where he lives, which Id planned before I met him. We texted frequently enough. If I ever feel like hes cheating on me I ask him if he is and he says no, that I am his one and only. Patty get your kids and get OUTTA THERE!!!! He said that if I keep accusing him that I will never get what I want from him. He has admitted, he never thought hed get caught. Someone please help. Now that 7 months had past, I recognized I was played, taken advantage of, plotting against me, setting me up and like the police said, they deal with men like that all the time. He doesnt take as much time for me as he could. Because hes cheating. I promise you, sweetheart, get out before he gains all his control of you, and you get trapped like I am, with no money, no friends, alienated from your family and friends, unable to even go to the store to get groceries, because he will eventually, if he allows you to work, will make you give him every dollar you make!! He makes it sound like I am crazy and tells me not everything is about me! Am I crazy? It seems to me the unpaid labour of a year was an affair. Youre the only person you can change.what changes do you need to make, in order to be happy in this relationship? I also found texting on fb/snapchat/oovo. I do go threw hos emails and txt when i can ive also caught him talking to some girl about how he really did love her and what they use to do in dressing rooms and stuff. He admitted she emailed him for the next four weeks and he would answer her back. In that moment in felt like the man I had loved had just died..he no longer existed. I finally got ahold of him at 4:00 a.m. and he says that his phone died. You do. This is excellent growth you and he and moving forward in your relationship. It was at a horrendous time too when Is just been dealt another loss! I also pray for your fiance, that he is willing to dig into his feelings of boredom and needing a spark, and that he can find that spark in his relationship with you. I can say that you know the answer to the question on whether he was faithful or not on your honeymoon. Some software programs let you know all about hidden actions that your husband does online. My problem is my husband is trained to keep secrets. I love him so much. His problem is he is constantly suspicious of me and waiting for me to pay him back even though I have assured him I wont. ! I asked him over and over. The second time I found out (a month later) he was in Iraq. If your suspicions are not confirmed, breathe and live on together. I have been married for a little over 5yrs. When Im at his place I talk with his parents on Skype and have met his friends both from the US and his country. Know that one day you will be done with all this, and you will be wiser, more compassionate, and healthier than youve ever been before. 2 years ago he was checking my cell messages in the middle of the night during his affair with her. He may sincerely believe that he would never cheat. I have decided that it is time to move on with my life and we have three children in the midst of this. Or get a divorce. Can you imagine who you could be without your cheating husband, what you can do, where you could go? And im also wondering if his lack of being able to get fully erect with me is also a sign of infidelity. The women are also either married or in long term relationships with men whom they love; just as I love my wife. I checked his Facebook page while I was at it. I was sickened that he was with us both in the same day. Now this is an ex he told me was a big mistake, shes this shes that bla bla bla. If you want to know if your husband is lying about cheating. We were together about a year when he left. Whatever you decided to do, take your time and work through some of the steps on this guide. Do you think your husband has cheated on you? We are pregnant with our first child. Put God in the center and everything will come together! but looking for something more on the side! Its hidden so he wont see. ok, my bf and i have been togetherf for almost 5yrs now. He says she hasnt cheated on him since. There are days where we get along so well and days where hes calling me every name in the book for no reason at all. very straight forward and informative.. Im so sorry to hear about your husband and marriage. Do you think I should encourge him to go out with the boys or am I just setting myself up for problems. But for my own self I dont want to do it as I dont really want to read all that trashy stuff. His mom died of cancer and the truth came out on her death bed..she lived in fear all their married life. As for his decision to work without pay that was a decision I had absolutely no say in, since as far as he was concerned it was his career and his life, and not my choice to make, even if it affected the entire family. In the past she never referred to me by my name. But he never puts me on mute when he buys stuff or orders food while on the phone with me so why put me on mute to ask a store guy to buy a blunt? Now he is talking to this girl he sees at work who babysits his bosses kids. I think you are 100% correct in wanting to end the relationship because you cant trust him. Sorry this is long but i have no idea what to do, im scared he is cheating on me even if it is just txt messgaes. I confronted him, and he said it was a longtime friend and they were only catching up. So i have no support and feel as if they have turned there backs on me. I can tell by his tone on voice, eyes, sentences that make no sense, his posture. I am sick of the lies and the sad part is he almost had me buying his lies. I dont know if your husband is lying about cheating, but there certainly hasnt been alot of honesty about what hes doing. Your point is very well taken. According to a recent Gallup poll, having an affair is one of the most immoral things someone can possibly do. 10? He said she was a long time friend and he was only talking to her because her father had recently passed away. Anyway. to women he knows casually, just as friends I have pages and pages of correspondence through the years with various women, that I think is just inappropriate (lets meet for a day at the beach etc.) He has told me she asked numerous times to eat dinner but he said he needed to be home with me and family. We do have an 8 month old baby boy btw. I set up a place for us to meet and he showed up. I am sad all the time and who knows if he did this once he will do it again. The very same day i went back to his house i found him with diferent woman again i left without talking to him. Be careful with your heart honey. At this point, after that long story of abuse, its your fault now for still being in it. I asked him why he cheated on me in the past if he loved me. Which I expected. He has refused sex with me on multiple occasions. Please give me your insight on this. Like all women, we fell hook, line and sinkerThey got us, but still wants to live the single life. Im not doing anything, but wonder if he is again. So if there is any advice i would be ever so greatful. Does not keeping it a secret not lying about cheating make it easier for her to understand? He is cheating,so Am I. I need out. There are TONS of good men. Im sorry youre going through this. How about when he says I know you dont believe me? Or gives me access to his facebook so I can check, gives me his phone so I can go through his texts ( I dont)He does face me (the bellybutton rule) when I confront him, his voice doesnt change, he doesnt get angry.But he refuses to go to counseling and says he wants to move on with his life.. I could t hear the message cause his phone is blocked, but I honestly suspect he keeps lying to me. "I excruciatingly suffered." Now, I am also in a change of life situation. And she said she thought so to until one day she asked to borrow his phone real quick, and he walked away for a quick second. Thank you for being here, and for sharing your experience with your new boyfriend. Back offhe didnt know how to tell you that he didnt want you working with him without hurting you and causing you to massively over react. other woman: No I havent but, my boss has already given me those days off. But, I think you know that. Janine Driver of the Body Language Institute shares four fascinating ways to tell if a husband is cheating on his wife and lying about it. I pulled my husband aside and asked him to please just keep his distance. We have been together for 7 years and been married for 2 years+. You should never blame yourself, though, as you both made a commitment to each other. Dont just jump to I dont know what to do. Instead, take 15 minutes and ask your body and soul what you should do. nor any guy because of my past that every boyfriend that i hve ever been with has cheated on me. I regret my actions now and wish I'd fought harder, but my mental health was suffering so it was easier to walk away. It made me so confused and depressed. Im a recovering addict myself, and have been through a marriage where my wife was cheating. Since then I have lost almost 50 pounds I tried going out with him but its so had because I dont know how to mingle and have a good time so we end up fighting. Yes he made the whole story up. I knew it but didnt want to believe my marriage was over. We have 2 children together which are now teens. The decision now is whether or not you should leave him. So after learning about narcissism, I understood I was a victim. ? My husband went to Las Vegas the weekend of November 9th November 12th. He says she was fun to be with. Be happy. When I ask who is that girl he said oh Im I dont know her, shes a voulunteer but he has to pass that girl every day to get to his office. I found out I had an std while I was pregnant, and the doctor gave him and I medication to get rid of the std. I just found out my ex husband has been dating someone he met at work while we are married. I so sorry ur going through this. He doesnt hold my hand anymore, hasnt said I love you to me since I have questioned all of this. Then, we broke it off for about 9 mnths, for other reasons, and in the meantime, she moved to where we live because this is where she is originally from and she and her husband divorced. I was starting to get suspicious so I then asked my friend Amy if she would take me to her place to see if she had gotten home okay and to convince me that I am just scared of getting hurt again by another man. He then told me he kissed her, put his hands up her shirt, and made out with her. 5) For the past two months, he would sleep close to the edge, on his side, of our king bed. (2) That bs story about not knowing they had sex, but he remembers that they made out. I dont know why you need the bread when you have all the crumbs. When I confronted him about that he laughed saying I was over-reacting. I feel like I will never be able to fully get past this until he admits I was not crazy and he was having an affair. What you need is someone to help you see your marriage and your self objectively, so you can figure out the healthiest ways to respond. She was married, but lived in another state, so I left it alone at first. I am not in love with him anymore and i am not attracted to him anymore. When I confronted him he told me you are going to believe her instead of me? Now, my husband is trying to secure a job position for her in the same company where he works, probably because he wants to see her more often. I dont know if it is my insecurities and the fact that I need to be told how much Im needed regularly, (I have always had doubts and insecurities to these extremes) but I worry that I am just convenant to be with. 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